Guys! You know those mornings when you do the hard work to set yourself up for success, only to get the poke in the eye from the Universe just an hour later? Was your work for real, or just for your own entertainment?
Let me tell you this story.
I woke up as a badass the other morning. I mean - I opened my eyes without the alarm before 5 am, did my meditation & breathing, had a 10 min stretching, took my probiotic and herbs. Moreover, I made a fresh spinach & cornbread for my boys (gonna give you the recipe for that one, it’s beyond delicious and super simple), prepared the Instagram worthy fresh breakfast, packed 4 lunch boxes, started Acoustic morning playlist on Spotify in order to set the stage up for my little gentlemen to step comfortably into yet another warm day.
I got the cutest, yet the grumpiest children in the world. I mean - whining, complaining, crying, sabotaging my fairy-tale endeavors to start the day in a hyggeligt way, and getting me into the hurry-up-we-are-late nagging mood (which is my worst trigger for spiraling down). I hate being in a hurry. I hate the energy of pacing myself to achieve anything. I’d rather not go, then go in a hurry.
As if the endless whining wasn’t already enough, I got a text from my husband (who was spending the week out of the country) that our little son had made a 400€ worth purchase at the App store.
When I finally managed to make my precious boys leave home for school, a little guilty munchkin had decided to bring his XXXXL sized Winnie the Pooh to the kindergarten, and they both got stuck at the door on our way out.
We were late. Needless to say.
I finally got them to school. And to kindergarten. Two different places.
I missed my yoga class. The second day in a row. Which is a big deal for me because yoga is giving me life. It’s my healing spot.
In a nutshell - I managed to pick myself up. Rather quickly. I believe that the reason was hiding in my practice (to be honest).
I know that this may sound weird, but I cannot get mad at my boys. Whatever they do, the love for them is so intense that no matter how stressed I may look sometimes - it never lasts more than half an hour. And being smart kids, they know exactly how to navigate around, and get what they want. Seeing them exploring the boundaries make me laugh.
Now, I wanted to share 4 tips that can help everyone to come back from crazy to zen. You might not have kids, but you may have a boss, or parents, or neighbor. As someone who spends time, energy and money on discovering how to tackle daily tasks and life tasks, I don't want the knowledge to stay locked within my inner circle. I want to share it with you.
Seriously. Many people know this, but even more people don’t really care. They look for more complicated solutions. Breath is our built-in relaxation tool. Learn to send it from the crown of your head all the way to your heels and back. You don’t need a zen-like environment to start breathing. Deep (belly) breathing stimulate the vagus nerve by filling your BELLY with air. Count to 4. Then breathe all the air out of your BELLY until the count of 6. Repeat until you feel relief.
I learned this technique from an outstanding person. He thought me to let the steam out when it builds up. When you are stressed - it's not the time to meditate. It may make the things worse. Instead, get in the car, drive the car to a deserted area of your city. Feel your emotions and learn to recycle them. Cry, scream, do whatever will help you to release. This is so important. When I discovered this concept, I thought I’d never been able to apply it. Conditioned by societal rules from the day I was born, I found it inappropriate. But I tried it, and it was fun. Not only that you can learn how to work with your emotions this way, but you also add the touch of child-like silliness to that. The combination is phenomenal and help you get the seriousness out of the game. Way too many people that are in some form of developmental process are too serious. Don't be one of them. Laugh at yourself. Important: Drugs have never been my choice, and they never will be. Too many people opt in for different drugs before they commit to CONSISTENTLY USE other available tools.
3. Essential oils
Lavender is my go-to buddy. Putting a few drops on your temples and under the nose can make a big difference. There are more and more studies showing the positive effects of lavender on our nervous system. Even tho this works like a band-aid rather than a solution to the problem, it can help you relax.
When you chill out, try to get more rooted into the cause. What exactly was the trigger? Why do you think that was the trigger? Go through the situation again. Try to re-imagine your response. How could you respond differently? I always ask myself - what would love do? That’s how development happens guys. Not by reading yet another book or discussing yet another concept.
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