Self-help

Check In With Yourself, Before The Spring Blues Hits

In a corporate world, March is the month that marks the ending of the Q1, or the first quarter of the year. Depending on the fulfillment of the plans, companies start adjusting and navigating their business activities to reach their goals. 

However, on a personal level, many people (and especially women) start to disconnect from the intentions they set in January when they had put the effort to dig deeper and connect with themselves, define and set their goals for the year ahead. They agreed to become healthier, to lose weight, and to devote more time for self-improvement. Nevertheless, exactly around this time of the year, they find themselves in a rut, choosing to go back and live with the flow. Everything becomes too much, and priorities change. Work, children, families, cooking, boss, business trips, spring blues and all that jazz puts us in defensive (I just wanna take a rest) mode. We start convincing ourselves that we need to lose the grip, to stop being too harsh to ourselves, and to relax into what life brings. 

But here is the reality guys: we're giving up and giving in.

It’s so easy to lose the motivation in this part of the year.  We tend to start putting the plasters on the open wounds. 

As I’d gone through the same pattern, I wanted to help you to pull yourself together and realign with your January intentions in a loving and supportive manner. It’s normal to feel this way at this time of the year, and you are not alone in that situation. We’re all going from excitement to sadness, just as spring weather can vary from heavy rain to clear blue skies. Changing the seasons is never easy, especially going from the winter to the spring. It requires our awareness, gentleness, clear boundaries and radical self-care. Deepak Chopra explains that when kids are confused, wining, nervous, parents get to put them to sleep and they wake up fresh. As adults, we need to see through the confusion that our bodies are falling into. Self-care is needed as an answer to our body's needs. It's a way of lovingly parenting ourselves. 

If I had the magic wound, I’d take your hand and show you how lovely, powerful and amazing you actually are. Please remember that you don’t need to become anything for anyone; you don’t need to show the world the picture perfect, you don’t need to change yourself for anybody else. Instead, start making choices that are in your best interest. Start choosing the right things for yourself which will help you feel great in your day. When you shine, when you're radiant and joyful is when you're expressing your true self. 

Tonight when you go to the bathroom to remove your make up, take five more minutes for this exercise. I promise that you’ll get the new, beautiful wings to keep flying with joy, with love, and with grace. 

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Dim the light, get some candles, defuse a few drops of essential oils (lavender or frankincense are the best for this purpose) and be radically honest with yourself. Take a deep breath in, count until 4, hold while counting until 7, and exhale until 8. Repeat this cycle 4 times. After the last exhale, connect with yourself and invite your inner intelligence to guide you. 

Start by asking yourself:

1. Did I step out of my comfort zone?
2. Am I fully present? 
3. Am I kind? 
4. What can I stop doing?

Now, take a deep breath in into your belly (your collar bones stay on the place without moving), and you exhale all the air with the whooshing sound. 

Take another deep breath and connect with your goals by asking these simple questions.

1. What is one word you want to describe 2018?
2. What will you make more time for? 

Whatever the answers, thank yourself for showing up, put the moisturizer on, blow out the candles and slowly walk to your bed. 
 
Sleep tight and when you wake up - remember the one word that you want to describe 2018. 

Do simple better, and remember that the lifestyle is a set of decisions you make on a daily basis, so chose wisely. 

Love you,
Marija

Self-love Menu For The Bad Days

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I've met a countless number of people thinking that my life is so perfect. Given that I'm still fairly young with quite a lot of life experience which I've gathered throughout my studies, traveling, working, living abroad while raising a young family and building a new company, I figure that it's quite easy to assume that I have it all sorted. The reality is - in appreciation of all the blessings that I can count, there is no such thing as perfection.  

Ebb and flow are real. It happens to each and every one of us. The question is - how do we deal with it. Some people say that it's not about the situation, but how we choose to see it. I believe that circumstances are an important part of the whole story. We cannot ignore them. However, I realized that in order to survive and hopefully thrive in spite of any circumstances, we need a well-established support system in order to deal with whatever comes our way. All those tiny things that we tend to put aside thinking that only a big life-changing event would get us out of the rut, are actually vital to get us on our feet again.

For those of you interested in how it is to live in a foreign country and raise the children - I'll tell you this - it is a no joke folks. You'll never have the history, you'll never know the unwritten social rules and at the end of the day - you'll always be a foreigner. It's only thanks to this experience that I've finally understood the importance of mastering the art of living. That is a secret of living your life gracefully.

As my gift to you, I'm sharing a Self-love Menu For The Bad Days that I've created for myself to help me survive. It's something that works for me, and you can use it as an inspiration to make your own list of the things that are close to your heart. When the going gets tough, take a look at it and feel free to help yourself.  

You welcome!

Do simple better and remember that lifestyle is a set of choices you make on a daily basis, so choose wisely.

Xo,

Marija 

Click here to download your PDF Self-love Menu .

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