Have you ever imagined your head standing on someone else's body?
Speaking from the physical standpoint, for example, have you thought about how you could look if you lose extra weight, put on some muscle, improve your image or change your posture? How would you show up in the world? What would be different?
For many of us - even tho we want to believe differently - the answer is - nothing!
We tend to get into the trap of judgment of what will happen one day when we are good enough, or disciplined enough. That’s the unhealthy approach that leads to a downward spiral of shame and blame, and I beg you to stop doing that now. It will not make progress faster. Trust me. Instead, learn to appreciate the pleasure that’s coming from the incremental changes.
Let me try to help you with some actionable steps in this article on how to enjoy and savor the process of transformation.
It’s not easy to chill when we’re continually being told how to look, how to behave, what to eat, how much, how to interact, what to wear, what profession to chose. Everything.
Connecting with yourself, your desires and your capabilities feel like launching the space shuttle to Mars. Benchmarks are all around, and we are taught to follow the metrics (not only in numbers but in pictures, status, degree, profession). Society is doing everything to domesticate us.
The shift doesn’t come with age; it comes with awareness.
Trust me on this one. No matter how old you are, what will determine your capability to break through societal dogma that teaches you how you should be is not your age, education, nor money, but your level of consciousness and self-awareness.
If you are walking your walk unconsciously - I bet that you are feeling kind of - okay, or may I say - great in your ignorance. On the other hand, if you feel intimidated by the engineered picture perfect - you’re probably becoming to live your life more consciously than the majority of the people around you.
Don’t get me wrong - wherever you are, it’s not your fault. We’re humans, the social animals. As such, we get influenced by many sources - media (and a lot), influencers (if only we could follow their blueprint for life), science (will tell us with “precision" what to do).
I believe that setting the goals is excellent and if you do, I appreciate you so much for that. You understand that whatever achievement you’ve had in your life has come as a result of setting the goal. However, I’d like to encourage you to pay attention to the process of achieving your goal. That is the real GOLDEN PATH with so much potential in it.
During the pursuit of your goal, if you open up and confront with what you find in yourself, and become willing to adjust your habits and behaviors, you’ll have a wholly transformational experience. Start asking yourself questions like: “Why am I not being able to follow through?, or "Why do I feel envious?, or “Where is this resistance coming from?". If you want something to work in your life, speak the truth and be centered around it.
Even tho you might never be able to look like Victoria Secret angel, or the hottest fitness guru (and the majority of people aren't), you still might feel happier and healthier than before because of your journey or experience that you’ve had along the way.
Open up to authenticity, honesty, and integrity as a new cornerstone of what is considered hot. I encourage you to be vulnerable and to say - "Here’s who I am even overweight and messy. I know there is some work that I need to do and I am willing to embrace the process."
By doing this, you’ll become the person that will have a higher awareness of your journey and someone who will be able to have a meaningful conversation with others. AND THAT IS HOT! Don't try to cover your modest inner world with excessive attention to outer expression through clothes, shoes, makeup, jewelry.
What if you decide to become healthy? Do you think that you’ll miss out on hotness? No way! Your whole being will become lighter, your skin and eyes will be radiant and glowing, you’ll become calmer and more centered, and the most importantly - you’ll become a loving and compassionate person.
Your life is going to change when you get to know yourself.
The perfect scale number or a fitness model's fat percentage will never make a mean person become a better human. Your unhappiness will only get exacerbated if you start chasing the metrics. Instead, look inside and commit to doing some inner work. Become little happier each day.
Your task is to become a healthier person not just in body, but in mind and spirit, as well as your heart and community. By doing so, you are going to become as hot as you desired.
Now, let's see where to start!
1. ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU WANT SOMETHING.
This may sound repetitive, but reminding yourself daily why you want to achieve something will settle into your subconscious mind. Learn to check in with yourself daily, and you’ll stay grounded on your path.
2. EVALUATE YOUR INSTAGRAM FEED.
This one is hugely important - evaluate how each person that you follow makes you feel. You don’t even have to label that feeling any further than - "I feel inspired," or "I don't feel inspired." And then take responsibility for the images and energies that you allow into your screen. Put yourself first and feel free to unfollow those that do not make you go and do something good.
3. WHERE DO YOU SPEND YOUR RESOURCES (TIME, ENERGY, MONEY)?
Is your spending in alignment with your values and your goals? Are you sitting in cafes with friends every day drinking lattes while your goal is to get in shape? Does your behavior take you closer to your goal?
Advice that follows is not a cliche, so you better pay attention. A lot of people meditate and still stay in their heads. If you want to get the benefits of meditation or prayer, you want to build the stronger center. Your spirit needs to get grounded. Practice meditation and pay attention to your energy levels. Your energy (chi) is vital for your feeling of centeredness. If you feel energetic, this means that you are on the good path.
Do simple better and remember that lifestyle is a set of choices you make on a daily basis, so choose wisely.
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